Comments on: What Can You Do, What Do You Do? http://jonathanstray.com/what-can-you-do Information, Culture, and Belief Tue, 24 Aug 2010 11:34:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Steve http://jonathanstray.com/what-can-you-do/comment-page-1#comment-574 Steve Fri, 04 Sep 2009 14:12:20 +0000 http://jonathanstray.com/?p=889#comment-574 We have become a people who are so afraid of becoming involved that we stand around watch others be beat to death or otherwise abused, without as much as lifting a finger. It always impresses me to see someone who can put care for others ahead of themselves. Very well done for doing something! I believe that the worst thing one can do is nothing. Like you I have a really hard time with idly standing by when someone is being abused or mistreated. Like you I've end up with my heart in my throat once it was over. Having found that it's too easy to speak up for the wrong party, or parties, I discovered that approaching the situation from the viewpoint that I was allying with them against the situation/problem. In other words it was a situation or problem, not the people in the wrong, I could get an appreciation from both without being a threat. Which is kind of important if you want cooperation. People easily attack you when they can't deal with the situation, and you become the new target. I deal with companies the same way. When I have a problem with lets say my ISP, I can attack the person who answers, or I can ask them to ally up with me against the problem. I let them know I'm really unhappy, but not with them personally, and that I would like their help. They are used to being verbally abused by angry customers, and obviously hate it. When I let them know I'm upset, but not with them, they line up on my side to help me solve it. Nice write up too! One can easily identify with what you went through. You were really scared but did not sell your integrity which demanded that you help. It is not unlike stage fright which you overcome simply by familiarity with the stage. We have become a people who are so afraid of becoming involved that we stand around watch others be beat to death or otherwise abused, without as much as lifting a finger.

It always impresses me to see someone who can put care for others ahead of themselves. Very well done for doing something!

I believe that the worst thing one can do is nothing. Like you I have a really hard time with idly standing by when someone is being abused or mistreated.

Like you I’ve end up with my heart in my throat once it was over. Having found that it’s too easy to speak up for the wrong party, or parties, I discovered that approaching the situation from the viewpoint that I was allying with them against the situation/problem. In other words it was a situation or problem, not the people in the wrong, I could get an appreciation from both without being a threat. Which is kind of important if you want cooperation.

People easily attack you when they can’t deal with the situation, and you become the new target.

I deal with companies the same way. When I have a problem with lets say my ISP, I can attack the person who answers, or I can ask them to ally up with me against the problem. I let them know I’m really unhappy, but not with them personally, and that I would like their help. They are used to being verbally abused by angry customers, and obviously hate it. When I let them know I’m upset, but not with them, they line up on my side to help me solve it.

Nice write up too! One can easily identify with what you went through. You were really scared but did not sell your integrity which demanded that you help. It is not unlike stage fright which you overcome simply by familiarity with the stage.

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